That Email: My Views

By now everyone should have heard about the woman who told her future daughter-in-law just what she thought of her manners.


Call me old fashioned if you will, but on some of her points, I totally agree.


It is a sad state of affairs when the young of today expect us oldies to accept their crappy behaviour and think that everything they do is normal and acceptable.


Here are some extracts from that email:

"When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat – unless you are positively allergic to something."

I agree!  You should be polite enough accept what you are given.  If you don't like it, don't eat it and make a polite apology. 

"You do not remark that you do not have enough food. You do not start before everyone else."

Yep!  I agree with this one too. Someone doing this in my house would soon be shown the door.

"You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host."

This one is a bit silly.  If it's on the table, take it and eat it.  It wouldn't hurt though to ask first of share what is left with others at the table.

"When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early. You fall in line with house norms."

This is one that would make my blood boil.  I agree that if you are a guest in someone's home, you should adapt to the ways of the house.   

"You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public."

Ah, well ... I don't know what the insults actually were.  Maybe they were justified ... who knows?

"You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why. No one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour."

This one is just smacks of jealousy ... of someone who didn't like being the central focus point. As for the "castle" bit ... that bit is just nonsense.  If you can afford a wedding in a castle and tink you really need and want it ... why not?

"If your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes."

This one is a valid point.  Why start married life with money worries?  You cannot expect someone else to carry the costs of your extravagances!

"One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie."

This one sounds as if Freddie has been placed on a pedestal by this woman and that no girl will ever be considered good enough for him.  I think she see's poor old Heidi as a money grabber who is out to get the easiest life possible for herself.


There you have it.  My old fashioned views on some of the main points of that email.  I'm sure many of you will disagree with me,  but what the hell!  


I have my standards ... you have yours.