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Friday, 1 July 2011

That Email: My Views

By now everyone should have heard about the woman who told her future daughter-in-law just what she thought of her manners.

Call me old fashioned if you will, but on some of her points, I totally agree.

It is a sad state of affairs when the young of today expect us oldies to accept their crappy behaviour and think that everything they do is normal and acceptable.

Here are some extracts from that email:

"When you are a guest in another's house, you do not declare what you will and will not eat – unless you are positively allergic to something."

I agree!  You should be polite enough accept what you are given.  If you don't like it, don't eat it and make a polite apology. 

"You do not remark that you do not have enough food. You do not start before everyone else."

Yep!  I agree with this one too. Someone doing this in my house would soon be shown the door.

"You do not take additional helpings without being invited to by your host."

This one is a bit silly.  If it's on the table, take it and eat it.  It wouldn't hurt though to ask first of share what is left with others at the table.

"When a guest in another's house, you do not lie in bed until late morning in households that rise early. You fall in line with house norms."

This is one that would make my blood boil.  I agree that if you are a guest in someone's home, you should adapt to the ways of the house.   

"You should never ever insult the family you are about to join at any time and most definitely not in public."

Ah, well ... I don't know what the insults actually were.  Maybe they were justified ... who knows?

"You regularly draw attention to yourself. Perhaps you should ask yourself why. No one gets married in a castle unless they own it. It is brash, celebrity style behaviour."

This one is just smacks of jealousy ... of someone who didn't like being the central focus point. As for the "castle" bit ... that bit is just nonsense.  If you can afford a wedding in a castle and tink you really need and want it ... why not?

"If your parents are unable to contribute very much towards the cost of your wedding, it would be most ladylike and gracious to lower your sights and have a modest wedding as befits both your incomes."

This one is a valid point.  Why start married life with money worries?  You cannot expect someone else to carry the costs of your extravagances!

"One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man. I pity Freddie."

This one sounds as if Freddie has been placed on a pedestal by this woman and that no girl will ever be considered good enough for him.  I think she see's poor old Heidi as a money grabber who is out to get the easiest life possible for herself.

There you have it.  My old fashioned views on some of the main points of that email.  I'm sure many of you will disagree with me,  but what the hell!  

I have my standards ... you have yours.


  1. Not sure what this is about, but must admit that you and I pretty much see eye to eye on this one.

    What's happened to manners?


  2. I agree with some of her points about not disrespecting the family. The whole attention seeking bit was about how the bride has diabetes and sometimes in public she's had to stop doing things to take care of that. Also the parents of the bride say the mother in law is snooty and when they were out to dinner she made them feel like they were beneath her. Also the parents just lost their job so that's why they can't afford to help pay for the wedding. I'm sure like most modern couples they are paying for their own wedding and its not up to the brides parents to pay for everything. As for the waking up early bit, what if she didn't know they wake up early? What if her soon to be hubby was still in bed with her? You can't help over sleeping or if your body makes you sleep till a certain time. I mean if I went to bed at 3 AM there is no way I am going to get up at 6 AM automatically, unless that is the time I wake up every day for the past 'x' amount of years.

  3. I agree with all of the above its not being old fashioned its called respect and common courtesy which is sadly lacking in people these days :-).

  4. Like all the above I see no reason why good manners and common courtesy are no longer common. But I do laugh at all the BS surrounding this non event and don't really care much either way.
    But I do see the future...I see a girl and her monster-in-law never getting along after this! LOL

  5. Yikes! Have to say, I agree with you on most points and find it sad that common courtesy and manners are considered old-fashioned. I'm amazed how many of my peers (I'm 30) do not even say Please or Thank You.

    My parents would have had my head on a platter if I forgot to thank anyone.

    When I'm a houseguest, I'm always paranoid about sleeping in. There's nothing worse than waking up and realizing no one had eaten breakfast yet because they were waiting for your lazy ass.

    I'm a vegetarian and I try to notify people in advance, but would never declare it at the dinner table when a meal is being served. I've even offered to make and bring my own meal if I know it will be an informal gathering.

    And I agree with you - if the food is on the table, I do not see the problem with getting yourself a second helping. Maybe she was reaching across others' plates and not asking to have something passed to her?

  6. I totally agree about manners, but the mother in law to be showed her own lack when sending an email to this girl, full of insults.
    A real lady would have perhaps hinted or gently told the girl these things, a little at a time.. not in a letter and certainly not by email.
    Which ended up biting her on her ample posterior.
    I am all for teaching manners but if my daughter in law ever needed a hint ( she never does) , I would probably not say anything, I know my place .. which this woman ( the one with her arse so far up her head etc ) does not know.
    She was rude and that is very bad mannered.

  7. That should have been, her head so far up her ample arse but then I guess we all figured that out , didn't we ? lol
    also ... Lady Bigbottom probably had to be taught these very manners herself at one time .. she should be ashamed.

    smdette .. in this case, you ask the hostess to pass you such and such and you don't ask for seconds. Fussy old fashioned but there you have it ..


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